If yes, here are some facts:
Loving your kids and caring about them, is sometimes challenging, especially when they fight or disagree about something, you find yourself protecting the younger one and punishing the older one, you thing that the older one should be more understanding just because he is older, forgetting that he is still a child and that concept is not yet obvious in his mind. What happen next is the real problem, the younger one start teasing his older brother or sister because he thinks you will defend him and it is OK if he does the wrong thing, and the older one will start punishing his younger brother or sister just because he or she is the reason for him being punished , and you will find yourself spoiling the younger one and pushing the older away.
I am pretty sure, if you have children you know what i am talking about, but the problem is, do you realize that you are the one creating this situation and making it become worse and worse with time?
Here is what you should do: start by watching your kids closely , the way they act with each other, are they most of the time loving and caring for each other? are they fighting then hugging without you having to interfere? or do they look like there is a bad thing going on? You know , no matter how old they are you can still notice the difference between a loving relationship and a tough one.
If they are in a tough relationship hurting each other with you in the middle , here is your way out: start by ignoring your younger child's complains , if they are in a fight punish the younger one instead of the older one , you will send a message to him that says," i am not protecting you anymore so you better respect your older brother or sister", at the same time the older one by seeing you punish his younger brother or sister , he won't have to do it himself ,and "et voila" you would stop this vicious cycle that you created and they will became best friends .
If there is one thing that you should know, kids are very smart no matter how old they are they just need common sense, trust them, they can do the right thing if you do it to .
That's it for today, until next time love your life it will love you back.
Loving your kids and caring about them, is sometimes challenging, especially when they fight or disagree about something, you find yourself protecting the younger one and punishing the older one, you thing that the older one should be more understanding just because he is older, forgetting that he is still a child and that concept is not yet obvious in his mind. What happen next is the real problem, the younger one start teasing his older brother or sister because he thinks you will defend him and it is OK if he does the wrong thing, and the older one will start punishing his younger brother or sister just because he or she is the reason for him being punished , and you will find yourself spoiling the younger one and pushing the older away.
I am pretty sure, if you have children you know what i am talking about, but the problem is, do you realize that you are the one creating this situation and making it become worse and worse with time?
Here is what you should do: start by watching your kids closely , the way they act with each other, are they most of the time loving and caring for each other? are they fighting then hugging without you having to interfere? or do they look like there is a bad thing going on? You know , no matter how old they are you can still notice the difference between a loving relationship and a tough one.
If they are in a tough relationship hurting each other with you in the middle , here is your way out: start by ignoring your younger child's complains , if they are in a fight punish the younger one instead of the older one , you will send a message to him that says," i am not protecting you anymore so you better respect your older brother or sister", at the same time the older one by seeing you punish his younger brother or sister , he won't have to do it himself ,and "et voila" you would stop this vicious cycle that you created and they will became best friends .
If there is one thing that you should know, kids are very smart no matter how old they are they just need common sense, trust them, they can do the right thing if you do it to .
That's it for today, until next time love your life it will love you back.
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